Saturday, February 28, 2015

Has it been 2-years already? Tribute to Mommy

Dear Mommy,

February 28, 2015 marks your 2-year transition date and yet it seems like you were here just yesterday.  I can still hear your voice, still feel your prayers and sometimes feel your presence as I experience new things in life.

Thank you for being a praying woman, who loved us all so deeply, yet differently.  Thank you for allowing all of your children to develop into our own beings.  You didn’t force us to be like anyone else and you loved us just the way we were.

Thank you for showing us what true love could be between a husband and a wife.  This was evidenced by the fact that you decided to leave when it was just you and Daddy.  No fanfare, no show, no audience... just two lovebirds in the room, sharing their last moments together.

I can’t thank God enough for giving you to us.  You were a great daughter, sister, wife, mother, grandmother and friend.   We knew that if we ever needed to get a prayer through, we could always call on you.

We rejoice on February 28th because it’s the day that you transitioned to a place where pain was no longer your predicament, nor was sorrow your situation because you'd finally found peace in the pasture. 

Nelda J. Mattison we honor you, we miss you and we love you!

Love always,
Your #1 and only Baby-girl




Monday, February 23, 2015

Rules to Live By

Live your life to the fullest!

1. Get off your "rusty dusty" and do something that feeds your soul! ‪#‎getmovingnow‬
2. If you're waiting on someone else to do it, it will never get done. ‪#‎itsalluptome‬
3. Your message is unique!  ‪#‎nobodylikeme‬
4. That test was tailor-made for you, so only YOU can share the testimony. ‪#‎customfit‬
5. Surround yourself with others who will support you and want to see you excel. ‪#‎hatersnotallowed‬

Happy feet

Today, I am walking in my mother's shoes. Literally! It is snowing in OKC and I have on a pair of her rain/snow boots. I have happy feet!
It's been almost two years since her transition and I can still feel her presence.

Monday, January 26, 2015

10 ways to flip a lemon

Although they are bright, round, yellow and look pretty in a glass vase sitting on the kitchen table, the truth is, lemons are bitter.

Let's learn how to flip a lemon....
  1. Make lemonade 
  2. Make lemon meringue pie
  3. Make lemonade pound cake
  4. Make lemon bars
  5. Make lemon cookies
  6. Put it in your garbage disposal or dishwasher to freshen it up
  7. Place it in a cup of hot water in the morning for detox and energy purposes
  8. Mix it with honey to help clear phlegm from a cold
  9. Squeeze it over seafood to enhance the flavor
  10. Use it as a garnish for your favorite drink
Yesterday, my husband was preaching and he mentioned how many people hang on to the bitterness of life.  We've ben hurt, so we hurt others.  We hold onto grudges and make ourselves sick worrying about other people. We may have had money issues in the past and now operate out of a sense of lack even though we may have the finances now.  Always the victim, never the victor.

Well today is the day that you make a change...  it's time to flip those lemons.

Don't allow the situations of the past, cloud your outlook for tomorrow.  One bad relationship that broke your heart?  Go back and study the things that you learned about yourself during that relationship and make the adjustments as you move toward the next relationship.  You do know that it will come, right?  But YOU have to be open.  Financial issues?  Talk to a friend who knows how to help you clear your credit and perhaps pick up a part-time job.  Having health issues?  When was the last time you really looked at your pantry?  Is there more processed food on the shelves than fresh produce in the refrigerator.  Get a workout buddy and an accountability partner who will help you to be more mindful in your eating.

What's the bottom line...

Stop being a lemon hoarder!  Take all of your situations, both good and bad, and learn how to flip them to work for you.
EVERY circumstance that we encounter has a purpose.  God is not wasting His time, but is very masterful at how He allows us opportunities to see His hand and trust Him in the process.

During his sermon, my husband gave four points in handling a troubling situation.
  • Recognize it
  • Acknowledge it
  • Accept it (this is the most difficult step)
  • Get through it!!!!!!
Now go get all of those bright, yellow, bitter lemons and do something wonderful with them.  You don't have to accept what's been given to you.  Create your own masterpiece by flipping your lemons, thereby maximizing their potential.

Now walk it out...

Thursday, January 15, 2015

Make a Connection

Connection is person who aids another in achieving a goal.
  • Relate
  • Associate
  • Kinship
  • Reciprocity
  • Intermediary
  • Mentor
  • Ally
  • Friend
Sometimes we are running around so busily that we forget to stop and appreciate the individuals who have strategically been placed around us.  It is not an accident that you keep running into each other at the store.  Nor is it a coincidence that his or her name continues to pop up into your news feed.  Maybe it's a reminder that you need to address them and make a connection.  My father used to always tell me to walk down the street with my head up and always look people in the eye.  This is connection! 

Who knows? That one connection might catapult you into your next assignment and victory.


Now head up, make eye contact and walk it out...........

Thursday, January 1, 2015

Bringing Balance to the New Year

Well, well, well....2015 has finally arrived!  To God be the glory, because you made it!

Whatever 2014 held for you, it is now over.  Whatever decisions you made, whatever news you received, no matter what happened to you this past year...2014 is now over.  We can't erase, forget, lament or stay stuck, but we must move on and forge ahead into 2015.

I've been thinking for the last few days what message I would send to you to begin the new year.  All day yesterday, I was contemplating over what my treatise should be. Should I talk about the resolutions that we make at the beginning of the year?  Should I mention the 10-day cleanse that I'm doing and how that can affect your overall wellness?  Should I talk about ending one and beginning a new year in gratitude? My mind raced, but my heart wouldn't allow me to release anything to you.  I even woke up this morning early, ready to impart what I believe God would want me to say....but I didn't feel it.  So I didn't type.  I helped my husband cook black-eyed peas (an old tradition in African American households to bring luck to the new year).  I called a few friends and family members.  I cleaned the kitchen.  I caught a couple of New Years' Day sales online.  I drank my smoothie and my water and then I got back in the bed and went to sleep.

Going to sleep, while my children are up moving about, is very difficult for me.  For some strange reason, I feel like I need to be engaged in something, rather than just stopping and sitting still.  In fact, they usually ask if I'm okay, if I somehow fall asleep before the normal bedtime.  Because we had a late night service attending 'Watchnight service' at church, we were all a little tired today and everyone was in their own corner.  This is probably the only reason that I decided to take a little nap in the middle of the day.

When I awakened from the nap, nearly two and a half hours later, I felt refreshed and renewed.  There were no more signs of the scratchy throat that I had early this morning.  I was ready to move around and check on the people in my house.  And just like that, the Lord gave me the revelation and the word to give you...REST!

In my blog from last week, I talked about RESTART, RESET and REFUEL!  All good points to get your mind situated for the new year.  Something to inspire you and enable you to let go and begin anew.  However in order to begin anew, you must learn how to REST.

Most of us since Thanksgiving, have been entertaining friends and family members or we've been traveling in and out of town to visit friends and family.  Constantly moving and probably tired! As I meandered through the house this evening, feeling well rested, I realized that this is the one day that most individuals allow themselves to REST.  It's almost the non-spoken rule of January 1st.  Most of us stayed up past midnight to bring in the New Year, transitioning from the old and embracing the new.  Unless you had to work today, we were all excited about the idea of "sleeping in".

Well isn't that just it?!

In order to bring balance into 2015,  you must restart, reset and refuel...but you must also learn to REST.  When you rest, you allow your body to heal itself naturally.  Resting gives your brain a chance to recover and sort out the events of the day. Resting increases the body's ability to fight illness.  The proper amount of rest allows you to think more clearly and to work more efficiently during the awake hours.

As you set out 2015 to become a better you, please realize that with all of the strategizing, planning and envisioning, you must also REST!  Rest will make your vision shine brighter.  Rest will allow your plans to come to fruition. Rest will bring balance to your life. 

Now walk it out..............and walk towards your bed or favorite chair, because it's time to rest!  Let's start all over again tomorrow.

Friday, December 26, 2014

Restart, Reset, Refuel

Have you ever had to restart your phone or computer?  It's usually recommended that at the end of the day you restart your phone or computer to pick up the latest updates.  On the computer, you usually get a message that pops up stating that there is a newer version of your operating system.  Once you say yes to receive the update, it's usually necessary to restart the computer, meaning turning it off and on again, to officially capture the latest version.  It's not a long process.  It's simply a minor pause, which allows your operating system to let go of the old and embrace the new.  Even with your phone, if you don't shut it down periodically, some of the functions will not work properly.  You'll go throughout the day frustrated because it's not working at maximum capacity and seems to slow you down.  Restart means to resume an activity, usually after some type of interruption has taken place.

Reset means to set again.  If someone breaks a bone, it is necessary for the doctor to reset it or put it back into proper alignment before casting it.  The word reset is also used when you're talking about a plant that has been re-potted.  You may have been given the most beautiful plant that fills the room with the necessary oxygen to balance the carbon dioxide released in the air.  You may water the plant faithfully and watch it grow and brighten up the room.  However, you will notice that once it grows to a certain size that it is time to change the potting soil. It's time to change the potting soil when the plant no longer seems to fit inside its current pot.  You may ask when will I know that it's time?  Oh you'll know alright!  When the soil is hardened, it might be time to reset.  You may notice that a day or two after its been watered the leaves begin to discolor and growth seems to be slow, it's time to reset.  When you decide to reset the plant, it is recommended that you move up gradually to the next size pot. It is also recommended that you water the plant a few days before you decide to replant, in order to minimize the stress.  Once you've decided to upgrade, you might notice that the roots are tightly compacted in the container.  No worries!  Carefully knock the plant against a hard surface to loosen the soil, then pull it by its base and remove it from the old container.  Shake off that old soil that was so tightly bound in the confined space and get ready to transfer your plant to a cleaner, larger pot.

The last word is refuel.  My family and I traveled during the holiday season and although we began the trip with a full tank of gas, it was necessary to stop at a gas station to refill the tank along the way.  Whenever you fill your tank with gas and turn the car on, the electric fuel pump sends a computer controlled amount of gas through the gas lines to the gas regulator and near the fuel injectors.  It's the computer inside the car that controls the amount of gas that is needed to accelerate the car.  Then the fuel pump unit sends information to the fuel gauge on the instrument panel of your dashboard to let you know when it's time to refuel.  Regardless of the gas octane, whether it is 10% ethanol or premium grade, it will become necessary to stop and refuel from time to time. If you don't want to call the towing company or stand by the side of the road with that red gas can, you might want to refuel periodically, preferably before it displays E (empty) on your dashboard.

Restart - Reset - Refuel

You might be wondering...what in the world does restarting my electronic devices, resetting my plants or refueling my car have to do with me?  It has everything to do with your upgrade to the next level of your life.  As we close out 2014 and move quickly into 2015, it will be necessary to reevaluate where you are and where you would like to go. 

You began this past year with a new determination to do better, to eat better, to think higher thoughts and you may have actually done these things.  Kudos to you, if you have!   But I'd like to challenge you that it's time to dream again and envision something bigger and better for your life.  It's time for an upgraded version of yourself.  Yes you can still function, but wouldn't you like to function more efficiently and effectively?  If you answered yes, then it's time to hit the restart button on your operating system.  You are on the right path, but God is saying that there is still more for you.  Will you be satisfied with last years' revelations or are you willing to seek God and receive His upgrade?  It's not up to Him, it's totally up to you.  To receive the upgraded version of yourself, you must accept it, then shut down and reboot your system.  Allow your spirit and mind to be renewed. Romans 12:2 says, " don't be conformed to the things of the world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind".  Go ahead...Restart now!

Resetting is a little different because you have to participate a little more in your own liberation.  Just as one has to gently knock off the dirt that is tightly compacted around the roots of the plant, you might have to knock some things that have so easily wound itself around your roots.  You might need to gently knock off self-limiting thoughts, gently knock off friendships that you have clearly outgrown, gently knock off anything that is causing you to suffocate in your own pot.  Once you shake those things, you are ready to receive new soil and be planted inside of a larger, cleaner pot. Now if you choose to stay in the same old pot because it's comfortable, just recognize that all of that familiarity will eventually choke off your roots and cause a slow, agonizing death.  Slowly but surely your leaves will begin to wither, change colors and your dreams will eventually die.  The larger pot might be a little intimidating, but after awhile you will notice that your roots will appreciate the extra space, adapt to the new environment and begin to grow again.   Remember the true beauty of a plant is not in the flowers and greenery that you see above the soil, but rather in the intricacy of the root work below the surface.  Go ahead...it's time to Reset!

Finally, you need to refuel!  Take a breather, pull over to the nearest filing station and get the encouragement that you need.  Each of us has a a different car, which requires its own type of gasoline.  If you fill it with the wrong gas, you'll notice that there is clinking or skipping in the engine.  The car has a way to let you know that you are out of gasoline.  Your mind, body and spirit have a way to let you know when it's time to refuel.  If your joints ache every time you move and you seem short of breath after the slightest activity, your body is screaming for you to refuel with the proper diet and exercise.  If you don't listen to your body, the indicator on your dashboard will land you right in the doctors office or hospital bed.  I'm just saying...you might want to refuel right now!  It is easy to tell when your body is sick, but you have to be a little more discerning to know when your mind and soul are sick.  Negative thoughts, depressive attitude, self-debasement, fear, anger, bitterness..............you're soul sick and running on 'E'.  Don't be afraid to refuel by talking to an encouraging friend; seeking the counsel of a therapist; reading motivational articles and books; going to church where you can be uplifted; aligning yourself with positive people; or praying.  This could be the jump start or refueling that you need to take you to your next destination.  Don't run from it, because it's necessary.  Just as we've noticed across the country that gasoline prices are at an all time low, the refueling that you need is ready and available.  You may say, "Sharri, I'm already on E and I'm stranded on the side of the road".  Well please allow this message to be your little red gas can for now, to give you a boost, so you can make it down the road to the nearest filling station.  I might see your potential and can help you get a little further with what I'm offering in the can, but if you want more for your life, you must drive ahead and then stop to refuel at the proper filling station.

What's the bottom line in all of this?  Nothing can be forced on you!  It's up to you to restart, reset and refuel.  At the beginning of the year, our church always goes on a fast.  We like to collectively fast as a church body to display to God that we want Him more than anything else and to start the year anew. (Restart) Along with that, a few of us have decided to do a 10-day cleanse at the beginning of the fast to help cleanse our bodies of unwanted, harmful toxins. (Reset) During this time though, I've also decided to fill my mind with positive readings thoughts and prayer. (Refuel)  I recently read an article about vision boards and in the same magazine I read an article where the writer mentioned The Circle Maker by Mark Batterson.  This is the book that inspired my husband to preach his summer long series, "Challenged to Change".  I currently have it on audiobook and oh how it's blessing my soul!  I am in the refueling process right now. I am going to continue in the refueling process, so that I can share with you daily words of encouragement during the fast.  As God fills me, I will pour into you. Your little red gas can, of sorts....

Ladies and Gentlemen, don't be deceived to do all of your dirt in the next week and then when January 1st hits, you become this angel for a few weeks. Begin the process right now to Restart, Reset and Refuel.  Begin to pray and seek God for what you should do.  He's ready to upgrade you, He's simply waiting on you to make the decision to hit the button.

Now walk it out.....................................................(preferably to the next filling station)